Oh no! You're in love. Or in like. But the object of your affection thinks of you as more of a brother or sister than anything else. It's notoriously hard to get out of the "friend zone" but if you really want to escape, follow these steps. Steps

1. Break the "Nice Guy" Stereotype. Most guys (and girls) who find themselves in the "friend zone" are usually susceptible to many of the characteristics of the "nice guy" stereotype...Pretty much someone who wants to avoid making other people uncomfortable at any cost, but usually at their own expense (not communicating their needs). In this case, you're romantically attracted to someone, but you don't want to "pressure" them into a relationship, or "ruin" the friendship by expressing your interest or making a move, so you hold back in a variety of ways. But when you make other people's feelings more important than your own (rather than trying to find a happy balance) you communicate to people (subconsciously) that your own feelings don't matter. This MAY make it seem like you have low self-worth, which is the opposite of confidence. While some people are attracted to ever agreeable mates, the person who assigned you to the "friend zone" probably is not. If nothing else, inaction tells the other person that you're simply not interested (chances are, even if they never felt attracted to you, they wondered about your intentions).
2. Stop Being Needy. One of the reasons you might be more interested in this person more than they are in you is because you really, really, really want to be in a relationship! You might be coming off as a little desperate, which is quite the attraction killer. You might be rushing things emotionally. You might also be placing this person on a pedestal, because you're so caught up in the idea of the relationship, that you're quick to assume this person is "perfect". Examine your own neediness. In one word, relax. There will always be many more encounters besides this one, so stop treating it like the last one you'll ever have.
3. Think about the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship. If you think a romantic relationship should just be a great friendship with physical intimacy thrown into the mix, then it's understandable to look for common ground first, and wait for the physical attraction to kick in sooner or later. But not everyone sees relationships this way. Some people expect a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" to play a particular role in their lives in order for physical attraction to emerge. The person who you want to be more than friends with probably has a bigger distinction between "friend" and "romantic partner" than you do. Many people (both male and female) expect to be courted in some way. You have to understand, also, that many psychological issues play out in the relationship arena that don't in friendships. Some people, for example, look for a romantic partner who can play more of a parental role than a friend would. Figure out what the person you're pining for wants in a boyfriend or girlfriend. Then decide whether you want to be that for them.
   
   
   • Note that some people are attracted to toxic relationships. If your love interests keeps getting involved with people who treat them badly, despite your advice, you might just have to accept that they're working through some issues. You could spend your entire life waiting for them to "see the light" or you could move on and find someone who actually (through their actions, not their words) wants a healthy relationship.
4. Break the touch barrier. For many people, a big distinction between "friendship" and "relationship" is the way they touch. There are more platonic ways to touch someone, and more romantic ways, and the boundary is different for different people. But if you're terrified of touching someone the wrong way, to the extent that you hesitate and never touch them first, your intentions are good and all, but your "touch paralysis" isn't helping you at all in the romantic department. Take a few little "touch risks". Reach for their hands, hair, shoulders, ankles, and back. Don't just always wait for them to do it first. If they don't like it, they'll definitely let you know. But touching someone communicates to them that you find them attractive, and also that you're reasonably confident. Both of these things can make someone feel more attracted to you.
   
   
   • There are more tips in How to Touch a Girl and How to Hint for a Kiss from a Guy.
   • Note that some people are very affectionate with their friends; the person you're interested might be all about cuddling with you, and think nothing more of it than friendliness, while you feel like you're getting mixed signals.
5. Realize that you're "tying up" your feelings by staying friends with someone who isn't romantically interested in you. So you've left your pushover habits behind, you've stepped up to role that he or she is looking for an a relationship, you've crossed the touch barrier, and this person still wants to be "just friends". Maybe they're simply not attracted to you, for reasons you'll never know. But you still have feelings for them. Is it wise to continue spending time with them?
   
   Consider that it'll be difficult to develop feelings for someone else if your feelings for this person are fueled every time you hang out. Consider that you'll struggle with feelings of jealousy and frustration when that person dates. Consider that even if you do manage to develop feelings for someone else, your heart might always be torn and confused, and it'll be hard to give your new flame your undivided affection. Sometimes the best thing to do is to take the friendship down to the level of acquaintance. The person might feel offended, perhaps as if you don't value them as just a friend, but remember (and explain to them if necessary) that you can't control how you feel, just like they can't control how they feel, and you need to make room in your life and heart for someone who feels about you the way you feel about them.

Video Warnings

• If you decide to let go of someone who doesn't return your affection, you might find that suddenly they're attracted to you. Be careful, then. This might tell you that they love the "thrill of the chase". If you find they lose interest when you become interested again, you've got a cat-and-mouse game on your hands--not the recipe for a healthy relationship.

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Wheat paste has been used for hundreds of years as a type of adhesive made from a combination of vegetable starch and water. It has many uses from adhering paper to walls, for papier-mâché and decoupage crafts, and for book binding. Today, many people from underground activists and street artists, to concert promoters use wheat paste for adhering posters to walls, as a cheap mix to spread both word and image. This article takes you through the simple steps for making it. Steps

1. Assemble the materials. You will need flour, sugar, and water, in the quantities outlined following.
2. Boil 1 cup of water. Pour the cup of water into a saucepan and bring to a boil over heat.
3. Put 3 tablespoons of flour into a bowl, add 10 teaspoons of water until it forms a runny mix.
4. Once the water has boiled, add the runny mix to the boiling water. Stir well.
5. Keep stirring. The mixture will foam up while it boils, so the constant stirring is essential to keep it from bubbling over. Keep the mix boiling for 2 minutes.
6. Take the boiled mix off the heat. Add 4 tablespoons or more of sugar.
7. Let it cool. Pour into an appropriate container for carrying with you. It will keep well for about a week.
8. Adding copper sulphate will make paste toxic to moths and protect the binding etc. long lasting.

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• For a super strong glue, add wallpaper paste or wood glue. Do not use super glue, rubber cement, or anything else volatile!
• While pasting, put a layer of paste down on the surface, then your image, then another layer. Press firmly.
• Don't use a roller to reach hard to reach places. Instead, use a small broom. A roller will bring the paper off the surface.

Warnings

• Watch the mixture while it boils and if it foams up, don't turn it off, just keep stirring.
• Make sure that you stir it really well, or else you'll get nasty chunks.
• Be careful around the boiling water to avoid painful burns.

Things You'll Need

• Bowl
• Mixing spoon
• Saucepan
• Water
• Flour
• Sugar
• Carrying container

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The terms "nerd" and "geek" are often used interchangeably, but they are not the same. Both terms can be viewed as either endearing or pejorative, depending on how the term is applied, by whom, and to whom. And there is always passion aplenty involved in the definition and application of either term. This article will help you to tell the difference between nerds and geeks, with ample room for your own subjective interpretation! Steps

1. Understand the terms. While the terms are often used interchangeably by people "less-in-the-know", and for some people who self-apply the labels "geek" or "nerd", there is often an overlap in characteristics,[1] and there are some characteristics that can be emphasized:
   • The term "nerd" was apparently coined in 1954, possibly from the Dr Seuss line "A nerkle, a nerd, and a seersucker too!".[2] A nerd could be viewed as someone with an extremely intense interest or fascination in an academic field of study (often an obscure field), or similar "cerebral" pursuit. Being a nerd is typically associated with intellect, as a nerd often enjoys specialising in complicated fields of study. Nerds may also have difficulties socialising with others, as many tend towards being introverted, although it is also said that a nerd cannot be bothered developing social skills while busy with other interests.[3]. Nerds often have gained a strong and diverse skill set from their studies and experiences, which may at times, be unorthodox or impractical. Nerd interests may cover a broad range of interests, from movies to games (video and table-top), to more practical skills such as computer science.
     • Very likely to be a rocket scientist, a renowned yet reclusive professor, a scientist, an intellectual, an inventor, etc.
   • The term "geek" originated from circus performers in sideshows, referring to those who performed bizarre feats.[4] Today, the term has taken on a positive slant and a geek could be viewed as someone with an interest or lifestyle having to do with niche activities, especially fandom and technology.[5]. It is not uncommon for a geek to be capable of reciting large amounts of knowledge that is unintuitive, intriguing and (at times) long-winded. The knowledge could be anything from the mundane to 'living encyclopedia' status.[6] Geeks tend to have average grades. Geeks can vary in their interests, from fun (films) and sometimes even frivolous things (collecting plastic figurines), to heavily technological interests (computing, hacking, and programming). Urban Dictionary goes so far as to suggest that society still views computer programming as a "bizarre feat" and the term "geek" is a proud label reflecting this.[7]
     • Likely to be a gamer, a Star Trek fan, technologically enthused, a software programmer, a film series/book series buff, a free-spirited (not malevolent) technology hacker, a creator of unusual objects (artist, etc.), etc.[8]
2. Observe the person. What sort of words and phrases do they interject into their dialogue?
   • Jargon and obscure referencing: Nerds are unabashed about using jargon or unfamiliar terminology in their dialogue, whereas geeks will use obscure references abundantly.
   • Details: Geeks often take interest in the microcosmic details of life, such as noticing that your present situation is much like one from a news article or novel. Nerds will be seemingly uninterested in the details of daily life, being more focused on the macroscopic, such as scientific possibilities and the future of humankind.
3. Take a quick inventory of their prominent possessions, especially ones related to hobbies and other interests. Check for unusual objects, such as a dictionary of an obscure language, or an encyclopedia of exotic birds. Nerds may be more willing than geeks to show off hobbies and possessions that flaunt their intellect, whereas geeks may take pride in more obscure and unique subjects.
4. Engage the person in conversation. If the person fails to respond in a socially comfortable manner (i.e., they make you nervous, or vice versa), you may be talking to a nerd. If they respond in a comfortable manner but appear a little "dorky", such as speaking and/or acting silly, you might be talking to a geek. Also, nerds may speak in layman's terms for your benefit because you may not understand the basic concepts of their area of interest. Geeks may speak in detail about their interests, possibly forgetting that the target audience may not have the same level of knowledge in that field as themselves.
   • Jokes: Geeks usually get them, nerds either don't, or can't be bothered trying.[9]
5. Inquire about the person's interests. Hobbies which do not elicit emotion, such as frequent studying of academic works, are good indications of a nerd, while an obsession with the practice of academics (i.e., a passionate college lecturer) would indicate a geek.
   • Example nerd interests for comparison:
     
     1. Physics (such as quantum mechanics or astronomy), chemistry, biology, engineering and fuzzy math
     2. Chess, and other strategy games
     3. 17th century English literature
     4. Classical music
     5. International politics and CSpan stuff
     6. Computer programming (overlap interest)
   • Example geek interests for comparison:
     
     • Specialized forms of activities, such as 'tricking'
     • "Niche" activities, such as electrical engineering
     • Novels that have a foundation within a field of study
     • Noise, techno-music
     • "Odd" activities, such as creating Rube-Goldberg machines
     • Computer programming (overlap interest)
6. Check out the partner of the person in question. Matt Blum claims that geeks have no problem falling in love with non-geeks but nerds always fall in love with other nerds.[10]
7. Note that the interests of nerds and geeks often overlap. Most nerds enjoy the more intellectual forms of science fiction and most geeks have a higher knowledge of science or encyclopedic data than the general population.
8. Aim to assume nothing and to treat all fellow human beings with equal respect, whatever label they're self-applying or you're tempted to apply. While there are a number of (often geek) commentators arguing that the term "geek" has a more modern, updated and positive connotation than that of "nerd"[11], the viewpoint is in the eye (or argument) of the beholder. The best approach to speaking and engaging with any person in your life is to be respectful, considerate and caring before all.
   • Remember that someone who calls themselves a nerd or geek may have different definition or interpretation of the term than you do. There are regional trends, but definitions should be examined on a person-by-person basis.
   • Some geeks perceive themselves as having transitioned from being a nerd earlier in life to becoming a switched-on geek later in life, almost like an epiphany, or a rite of passage.[12] Whatever the case, most of us have experienced growth at various stages of life, so try not to box anybody in with past expectations.
   • Be aware that 'your' application of either the term "geek" or "nerd" to another person may be viewed as an insult, whereas if said within the group, it may be viewed as positive.[13]

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• To engage a geek or a nerd in conversation, be prepared to accept that there is something fundamentally interesting about what they obsess about. You may not fully understand why, but just accept that it is so.
• Nerds may not feel the need to defend attacks against their areas of interest, since they simply don't care so much about others' opinions. Geeks are typically very energetic, and will jump at the chance to discuss a topic they care about, to help convince you about its worth.
• The interests of geeks are often ridiculed or put-down by those who do not fully appreciate them. Nerds themselves are often ridiculed or put-down by those who do not fully understand them.
• Some nerds believe that their interests are of "potential value to humanity as a whole, although humanity doesn't know it yet".
• Geeks are typically able to extrapolate beyond an object's immediate value to foresee future value, although many will merely see a trinket, hoarding, or garbage.
• Very generally, a nerd might become a scientist or inventor, while a geek might become an engineer, an academic, or a critic (such as of films).
• Nerds and geeks, by their very nature, will never be 'mainstream' or accepted by the general populace. All one can do is attempt to be a little more open-minded, and a little more understanding of one another.
• It is possible that somebody is either a nerd, or a geek, and doesn't realize it, and therefore doesn't celebrate their status or, identify with it, and may even be struggling to be seen as "mainstream".
• Both geeks and nerds may have traits of Asperger's syndrome, which is soon to disappear as a separate diagnostic category and be incorporated into the high end of autistic-spectrum disorders in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of the American Psychiatric Association. Becoming aware of this, if it fits you, can do much to alleviate the constant pain of trying to fit in where you cannot do so, when a greater measure of self-acceptance and capitalizing on your undeniable strengths would be a better strategy for leading a fruitful and happy life.

Warnings

• Geeks are well aware of their "geekiness". Many geeks are even proud of being a geek, hence the launching of sites such as ThinkGeek.com, LifeHacker, Gizmodo, and Engadget. Therefore, do not ever challenge a geek's level of 'geekdom' if you wish to converse with them. Likewise, do not question the intellect of a nerd, lest you be shunned from their conversations.
• Many nerds and geeks are introverted, and some are even asocial. They may even not want to talk to you at all. Be patient when conversing with them.
• Don't assume that geeks and nerds only have one interest. A linguist or artist may also happen to play football or guitar.
• Nerds and geeks are often clever and witty. Enjoying the Sci-Fi channel or knowing the Constitution in Latin are not grounds for claims of inferiority.
• Do not assume that nerds and geeks want to be "converted" into "popular" people. Despite common misconception, nerds and geeks do not worship the popular, nor are they frightened by those who are seemingly popular. In fact, there may even be pity for the popular person's shallow lifestyle.
• Geeks are generally more open to talk things out with you if they disagree; a nerd will typically shun you, merely believing that you simply "don't understand." Don't take it personally; simply realize that they're probably very frustrated that other people don't connect with them at the same intellectual level.
• It is possible for someone to be a nerd and a geek, depending on definition. For example, people who like Star Trek may be interested in NASA level quantum physics. A tomato gardener may have a degree in bio-chemical engineering. Many "nerd" and "geek" interests interlace. Often being a geek leads to being a nerd, as people research areas of science and technology appropriate to their interest. Similarly, nerds can become geeks, as expertise leads to interests outside the typically "academic".

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• Wikipedia, Geek, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Geek
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Discus throwing dates back to at least 708 BCE.[1] During the time, a Greek sculptor named Myron created his famous statue, 'Discobolus', which was a discus thrower,[2] while the famous poet, Homer, made various references to discus throwing in his Iliad.[3] Discus throwing formed part of the Greek pentathlon--the discs at the time were made of bronze and iron, and were much heavier than the discs used today. Today, both men and women of all ages participate in this Olympic event.[4] Steps Selecting the disc

1. Before throwing, choose the right disc. The size and weight of discus you throw is determined by your age and gender. Use the following list to help you choose correctly.
   • Women (all levels) - 1Kg Discus
   • Boys (up to Age 14) - 1Kg Discus
   • Men (High School, 15-18) - 1.6Kg Discus
   • Men (College) - 2Kg Discus
   • Men (Masters to 49) - 2Kg Discus
   • Men (50-59) - 1.5Kg Discus
   • Men (60+) - 1Kg Discus

Standing correctly

Note: This is for right handers. Mirror the position if you are left handed.

1. Practice the stance. This is one of the most important steps to throwing a good discus, along with holding the disc correctly. Think of the width between your feet as you are about to the throw the disc. Make sure your feet are both shoulder width apart and your arms are both extended to the length. Also practice the chin-knee-toe technique, where you ensure that the knee of your left leg is in line with the toes and the chin as you stand.
2. When in the discus ring, find a comfortable footing position. The footing position, if you're right handed, is with the left foot pointed outwards of the ring (the exit of the discus) and the right foot pointed 90 degrees clockwise from the left. So, the left foot is at 12:00 and the right at 3:00.
   • Do not space your feet out so far that the wind up will be blocked. Think of it as an "L" so that the right goes to the top and the left to the bottom.

Throwing the disc

These are the steps for throwing the discus the standard way, for right handed throwers.

1. Enter the ring with your chosen disc.
2. Correct Feet Position Position your feet correctly. Get in a good stance while you swing your arms and prepare to throw your discus, because it will also help to determine the length of your upper body stride.
3. Place your left hand under the discus. This provides the proper support. Place the right hand on top of the discus.[5]
   • Bend your fingers around the discus edge lightly, only from the first joint of your fingers.[6] Your fingers should barely skim the edge rather than clasp or wrap the discus.[7] This makes it easier to throw it because you are not gripping it, nor holding it with your palm.
4. Correct StartExtend your right arm. Maintain the positioning of the discus in your right hand, face down, with your other hand supporting the bottom.
5. Back Swing: ExcellentSwing your arm with your body back and forth horizontally. This gains momentum for the throw.
   • When swung back, let the disc swing alone but when pulled forwards, put the left hand under to keep it from getting released.
   • Good Angle For Getting Height To The ThrowDo the swing at an approximate of 30° upwards. This means you raise the disc when swung forward and lower the disc when you swing back. This allows the discus to gain height whilst thrown.
   • At the same time, you will need to swing your lower body as well so the rotation is greater.
   • Remember to keep your feet on the same position so momentum is not lost.
   • Swing back and forth repeatedly until you feel like throwing.
6. When you feel like the swing is great enough, release the disc with greater force.
   • Use your legs as the primary force. Have weight on your left ball of your foot while the right leg swings around widely and lands in the middle of the ring. Push off with your left leg and have all your weight transferred to the right leg in the center of the circle as it turns until pointing to the front of the ring, as your right leg turns into your left leg (the blocking leg). Then feel that your body spins from the feet up, having your torso and arm being the very last things to come through the throw.
   • Flick your fingers and aim your arm/hand high as you let go of the disc for a farther distance. If you use strength in your arms and legs it will go even farther. The harder the push, the farther it will fly.
   • Extend your chest out before the release to allow the shift of weight #During your throw, never go over the ring line because it will result in disqualification. When entering and exiting the ring, you must go from the back and out the back. If not, it will also result in disqualification. Other disqualifications include after the throw if any of your feet go over the ring.from the legs to the arms.
7. DiscusFind your markings and if it wasn't good enough, try harder for the next throw. If done properly, the disc should travel relatively horizontal and reach a great distance. The average throwing distance for highschoolers is approximately 150-160 feet.
8. After the throw is done, exit the ring out the back half.

Video Tips

• Be aware of your surroundings. You cannot throw if there are people in front of you because you can, and will, hit them. In addition, people watching should be outside of the ring itself behind the net. The net helps prevent the disc from flying off into the crowd of people behind. Be aware that even pros slip their discs when in competition. There should be only one person in the ring, you, the participant.
• When participating in the discus throw, clothing requirements are:
  • Be aware that it is necessary to wear shoes in the discus ring. This avoids any foot injuries that might occur, such as the disc slipping off your hand and landing on your feet.
  • Do not wear a hat inside the ring. This will help prevent any misguided throws because the bill of the hat might get in the way. In addition, in most sports, hats are restricted for various reasons.
  • Wear suitable clothing. For discus throwing, you should wear moderately comfortable shirts and shorts. This means not body-stuck tight nor sumo-sized. Wear anything that is easy to turn in for the wind-up.
  • Other forbidden pieces of clothing include sunglasses because they do not allow full access to sight.
• Get your own discus so you can practice at home. The more practice you have, the better you will do.
• Stay hydrated and eat plenty of healthy foods to keep yourself prepared for your throw.
• Practice in such a way that when the disc leaves your hand, the last point of contact should be the top bend of your first finger.
• Remember to always lead with your chest. If your off hand leads the throw, it creates a whip like motion, giving you increased momentum.

Sources and Citations

• http://www.trackandfield.about.com/od/discus/ss/illusdiscus.htm - research source
• http://www.paralumun.com/sportdiscus.htm - research source
• http://www.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discus_throw - research source
• http://www.trackandfield.about.com/od/discus/a/discusrules.htm - research source
• http://wiki.answers.co/Q/What_is_the_average_throwing_distance_for_a_high_school_girls_discus_throw - research source

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In a survival situation, you may be called upon to catch fish without having any fishing gear. Fortunately, the old fashioned art of fishing without gear has been perfected over the centuries and there are many ways to capture fish with only a few simple tools--or even with your bare hands! Steps Improvised hook

1. The odd paperclip can come in handy Find an item that can be fashioned into a hook. Good candidates include:
   • Paperclips
   • Broken pop-tops

1. • Sharp twigs
   • Bobby pins.
2. Simply unbend the paperclip for a ready-made hook Twist the item into a hook shape, if necessary.
3. Cord from clothing works really well Attach the "hook" to a line. Good items to serve as an improvised line include:
   • Shoelaces
   • Unraveled thread from clothing
   • Twine, string, or yarn
   • Long strong grass, flax, or seaweed stems.
4. No meat? Try a shiny bracelet! Bait the hook. Items that can serve as bait include:
   • Food scraps (meat is ideal)
   • Bits of colorful plastic
   • Leaves
   • Dead insects
   • Jewelry.
5. Dipping the improvised rod into the water Dangle the improvised "rod" and "hook" into a promising location. Fish tend to hide in shadowy areas, such as the overhangs of banks, below overhanging trees, within water plants, or near rocks.
6. Wait for a fish to bite. Once a fish does bite, scoop it up. Don't try hauling it in with the line, which will likely break. Use your hands or an improvised net made from clothing or other items you have on hand.

With a trap

1. Empty a food container if you have one Get a container in which to trap fish. Good improvised items include:
   • Clothing
   • A bucket
   • Jar or plastic container
   • Plastic bag
2. Lay your trap in a likely fish hideout. Wait for a fish to swim in. If possible, hold the trap so that your hands will cease to alarm the fish as they grow used to your presence–be patient!
3. When a fish swims in, pull up your trap with the fish inside.

By cornering the fish

This method is best if you have assistance. You will need to get something to block and corral the fish, such as a length of cloth.

1. Unfold clothing or cloth to a good length Stretch out the length of cloth. This is best if your partner(s) holds the other end. Make sure that there is no escape route underneath.
2. Corner the fish! Move slowly towards the fish, backing them into an area, such as a bend in the river, or the end of a tidepool, where they cannot escape.
3. Once you have backed the fish into a sufficiently small area, grab for them. It is a good idea to have a container handy to either scoop them, or to toss them into.

With scoops

This method requires speed and dexterity.

1. Get two scooping devices, such as buckets, empty containers, even plastic bags.
2. Find a group of fish in a relatively contained space, such as a tidepool or small pond.
3. A dry land depiction of what you might catch using 2 scoops Lower the scoops slowly into the water. When the fish are comfortable with the scoops and have settled between them, bring the two scoops together. Many fish will probably escape, but a few may be caught. This method is not recommended in a serious survival situation.

With a spearing device

1. Scissors are good Get an object with which to spear the fish. Useful improvised items include:
   • Pocket knives
   • Scrap metal, glass or hard plastic
   • Scissor blades
2. Use twine, shoelaces, or other string to attach the sharp object to a stick or pole. Alternately, sharpen the stick itself.
3. Test the distortion with your hand to teach your senses Get used to light refraction. Water distorts the position of underwater objects, making the fish seem closer than it actually is.[1] Warm up your perception abilities by taking some practice stabs at rocks and debris to make sure you understand how much you must alter your aim to account for this discrepancy.
4. Find a fish in a relatively contained area. Be aware that you will only get one opportunity to spear the fish successfully.
5. Spear with speed Aim and stab quickly.

Collecting by hand

This method requires the most patience and skill on your part. First, select a fish hideout, and check for fish. It is best done in shallow water, such as low tide, or a shallower stream or river, although some people are adept at fishing in this way in deeper waters.[2]

1. Stand in the water if safe.
2. Lower in hand Slowly lower your hand into the hideout, palm up, with your fingers extended towards the fish.
3. Keep the hand perfectly still Keep your hand as still as possible.
4. Be patient while you trick their trust After several minutes, the fish should be used to your hand. Begin inching it towards the fish.
5. Gills are around where these fingers close; on bigger fish, you will be able to dig your fingers into the gills When you can feel the fish's chin, close your fingers onto the fish's gills, and pull the fish from the water.

Bailing out

This is a traditional method known well in Africa and Southern Asia.[3] This method is not beneficial if you're low on energy, however.

1. Find a small pond or small water area. This could be rock pools, tidal pools, smaller areas of water off a lake, lagoon, or river, etc.
2. Bail out the water from the pool using a container.
3. Fish caught in the bailing bucket Try to attract fish to the container used for bailing (see method above for catching with a "trap"). You can also use a basket or netting to filter the water and catch fish at the same time, acting like a strainer.

Video Tips

• Always bring basic fishing gear on outdoor expeditions as part of your survival kit.

A string (safely tied off to a branch or something solid) passed through the fish's gill and mouth with a stick tied on the other end will keep it alive under the water while you go for the next one.

Warnings

• Raw fish flesh contains many parasites, such as tapeworms, which are dangerous to humans. Cook thoroughly before eating, unless you're in a dire survival situation.
• Be careful when standing in or entering water. Check that it is safe and isn't going to sweep you away or dash you against rocks.
• Many fish species are protected by law. Don't fish without a license, or fish for endangered species. Penalties for doing so without a defense can include jail time and heavy fines.

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Landfills are expanding every day. Between 1960 and 1990, trash production has doubled, and since then remains at about 4.5 pounds per person per day[1][2]. Despite a growing push to recycle and reuse, we must try to correct not the symptoms but the disease, and to do that, we should all reduce. Consuming intelligently and putting pressure on companies to use biodegradable and recyclable material without over-wrapping their products is part of the solution. The other part is using less in the first place. Here are some things you can do right now. Steps

1. Think about whether you really need that item before you buy it. Can you make do with something you already have? The more you buy, the more trash you will create, so if you can make the items you already own do double duty, you will create less trash in the long run.
2. Refill a small soap dispenser from a larger container.Do not buy overpackaged products.
   • Don't buy things packaged in individual serving sizes. Buy one larger bottle instead of four or eight smaller ones.
   • Buy one larger container instead of many smaller ones. Since you are paying for less packaging and shipping, you may also pay less by buying in bulk.
   • Ask your butcher to wrap your meat in peach paper only, then attach the price on top to keep the paper folded. Peach paper is a strong, water and oil proof beef or pork wrapping paper normally used to split stages of meat inside a styrofoam tray. It is available in rolls or in sheet.
   • Buy fresh, unpacked, fruits and vegetables.
   • Buy grains, pasta and dried fruit in bulk.
   • Look at whether the package is recyclable in your area before you buy.
3. Plastic grocery bags.Use your own bags when you go grocery shopping. Both paper and plastic bags do the environment little good.
   • Bring a canvas bag with you to the store.
   • Ask that store clerks not bag items that have their own handles (milk, bottled laundry detergent) or already have bags (produce) or packages (cereal). Often, the package an item comes in is just as convenient as putting that package in another bag.
   • Ask for no bags if you only bought items that you can easily carry or if the items are going straight from cart to car to kitchen.
   • Pack your purchases yourself. You can pack them your own way and save time and bags.
   • If you cannot avoid getting a plastic bag from the store re use it as a trash bag for the bathroom, bedroom or kid's room.
4. A tall stack.Go Paperless! Paper constitutes about 30% of average American's garbage[3].
   • Don't print things if you can see them on screen.
   • Receive and process bank statements, pay stubs, bills, and many other documents entirely electronically.
   • Read newspapers and magazines online if they are available there.
   • Avoid collecting brochures and flyers. Were you going to read them, anyway?
   • Use reusable gift bags. You can even make your own out of fabric.
5. Stop your junk mail. A few phone calls can work wonders. It will save you time, clutter, and quite possibly money, too.
6. Used but still usable books at a garage sale.Give away or sell what you don't need. Try Freecycle, Craigslist, or your local charity.
7. Purchase used products from garage sales, classified ads, or anywhere else they are available. You'll save money and reduce the demand for new products. Buying used is a direct form of recycling.
8. Choose to reuse.
   • Use fabric napkins instead of paper napkins or paper towels. Find two or three per member of your family (hint: thrift stores and garage sales are a great source). If they don't all match and they're not too dirty, family members can use them for more than one meal.
   • Pack a waste-free lunch. Use a lunchbox, not a paper bag.
   • Use reusable food containers instead of plastic bags or prepackaged drinks, both in your lunch box and at home. If you do use plastic zipper bags for food storage, you can wash and reuse them several times. Don't reuse bags that contained meat.
   • Avoid using paper plates, paper or plastic tablecloths, and plastic, disposable flatware.
   • Use a washcloth instead of a disposable face wipe.
   • Use fabric, not paper, towels, in the kitchen and bathroom.
   • They're sturdier and more absorbent, besides.Clean with terry towels instead of paper towels or wipes.
   • Some cloth diapers have evolved.Use cloth diapers, at least when you are at home. Wash the diapers instead of throwing them away.
   • Use a menstrual cup or washable fabric pads.
9. Use less.
   • Buy only as much of something as you know you can use before it spoils. This may mean a one-week supply of perishable foods.
   • Cut dryer sheets, paper towels, tissues, and other things into smaller pieces if you do not need the whole thing.
   • Empty the trash without replacing the liner, unless the liner is heavily soiled. Separating out especially messy trash, such as vegetable scraps for compost, will keep liners usable for longer. Reuse grocery bags for trash can liners wherever possible.
   • Use only as much soap and detergent as you really need. Open your washer during the cycle. If the water feels slippery, and (in a top-loader) looks sudsy, try cutting back just a bit on the amount of detergent you use, regardless of what the cup says. See how little shampoo and dish soap you really need, too. Many products are very concentrated and, past a certain point, more soap does not mean cleaner.
   • Cook at home. Raw ingredients often come with less packaging than prepared, boxed foods.
10. Home composting.Compost and mulch your garden with what you grow there. It will cut down your yard and vegetable waste tremendously (often around 15% of the waste that households produce [4])and it will improve your soil and your garden without the use of chemical fertilizer. If you can use mostly materials you were producing anyway, such as grass clippings and fallen leaves, you will also save many trips to the nursery or hardware store to buy mulch and soil.
11. Borrow, lend, rent, and share. If you and your neighbor both do your own gardening, do you each need your own lawnmower? Could you rent a tiller (or pickup truck) for the one week in spring when you really need it?
    • Use your local public library. Borrow books, music, movies, magazines, newspapers and then return them to share with others instead of creating more.
12. Maintain and repair instead of replacing. Don't throw out your vacuum cleaner if it isn't picking up. Check the bag and the belt and make sure the hoses are free of clogs.
13. Buy for durability. Whenever possible, choose a product that you will use for a long time and be able to maintain and repair should it be necessary. It may cost a bit more up front, but it will save waste and money in the long run.
    • Durability goes for style and fashion, too. It's not always possible to tell before buying something how soon it will be hopelessly out of date, but it is usually possible to buy simple, classic styles that you like and can wear or display in your home for a long time.
14. Reuse and Recycle!

Tips

• Reducing waste can often save you money. Washing your own cloth diapers is less costly than buying disposable or paying for a service. Bringing your own lunch from home in reusable containers saves you purchasing bags and buying lunches at school or work.
• Find out if you can reduce your garbage bill if you reduce your waste. Many municipalities charge by the can or bag or offer a lower rate for using smaller or fewer bins for weekly set-out.
• Sometimes, disposable items really are the best solution for messy or temporary situations. Some amount of packaging is needed to keep foods safe and fresh and to ship and deliver delicate products without damage. Use your judgment to vary your approach appropriately.
• Washcloths, towels, sheets, etc. can be recycled to your local animal shelter or veterinarian - they'll be glad to have them!

Warnings

• Launder things like washcloths, fabric napkins, and towels regularly. Have enough on hand that you can replace them as they get wet or dirty and wash them with your regular laundry every week or so.

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Installing a sling on an American Civil War musket can be quite difficult and confusing. Since they are not made like a modern rifle sling, you have to install it differently. This article demonstrates how to do this correctly.

Note: The images are of a 1861 Springfield, though all American Civil War muskets have virtually the same sling design.

Steps

1. Hook End Loop End Retainer Loop Unfold the sling and locate the loop end, hook end, and retainer loop.
2. Remove the retainer loop from the sling by sliding it up and over the hook end.
3. Slide the hook end through the bottom sling loopWith the metal hook of the hook end pointing down, slide it through the bottom sling loop of the musket from the top to bottom. Keep the point of the hook pointing up and away from the musket.
4. Slide the hook end through the loop endSlide the hook end through the loop of the loop end, rough sides of the leather facing towards each other.
5. Pull the sling tightPull the hook end until the loop end is tight against the bottom sling loop of the musket.
6. Slide the retainer loop back over the hook end and slide it down to the bottom of the sling. Keep the sewn side toward the musket.
7. Slide the hook end through the top sling loopSlide the hook end of the sling through the top sling loop of the musket from top to bottom, with the point of the hook pointing up and away from the musket.
8. Hook the hook end into the desired hole in the sling.
9. Slide the retainer loop up as far as it will goSlide the retainer loop up over the hook end and as far up the sling as it will go.

Tips

• Punch some holes farther up the sling with a leather punch to make it taut so that it stays out of your way during a battle.
• Just like anything made of leather, keep it oiled and in good condition so that it will not develop cracks or become brittle.

Warnings

• If the leather is too dry, the sling could crack while installing.

Things You'll Need

• Sling
• American Civil War musket
• Leather conditioner

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This hamster is recovering from wet tail, on his own private beach! Wet tail (proliferative ileitis, transmissible ileal hyperplasia)[1] is a bacterial infection that impacts hamsters. Wet tail results in severe diarrhea, with the droppings being very soft and watery, leaving the tail very wet (hence the name). If you think your hamster has wet tail, here is what you need to do, quickly. Steps

1. Check for signs. The following signs indicate wet tail in a hamster:[2]
   • Tail end and sometimes abdomen are wet, matted
   • The wet area is soiled and smells bad due to excessive watery diarrhea
   • Failure to groom
   • Dull, sunken eyes
   • Abdominal discomfort
   • Lethargy
   • Irritability, discomfort, hunched posture
   • Protruding rectum caused by straining
   • Loss of appetite, and low energy levels.[3]
2. Rush to the vet with your little friend. The vet will prescribe a course of antibiotics, something to cure diarrhea and administer fluids. And rush means nothing else than rush. In other words: timing is key.
   • Prior to seeing the vet, remove all food. The gut needs to rest for 24 hours.[1] Your vet will provide further advice.
   • It is likely that the vet will prescribe antibiotics to be given as drops or in the drinking water. Follow the instructions with great care. In addition, you may be given anti-diarrhea medication and fluids to rehydrate the hamster orally.[2]
3. Isolate the sick hamster. Wet tail is contagious. And since your hamster is not feeling well, he or she might like to be left alone anyway.
4. Rest is importantReduce stress. Wet tail is believed to be a stress related disease.[4] Therefore stress is the last thing your buddy needs.
   • Remove any source of distraction or upset from the room where the hamster is resting, including other hamsters, barking dogs, inquisitive cats, bright light, and anything that is noisy.
   • Do not change the usual food unless your vet advises you to. This can cause more stress.
   • Keep the hamster warm.
   • Try not to move the hamster around again once you get him back home. Transportation is a source of stress.
5. Keep the hamster well hydrated. As said before, wet tail is very much like diarrhea. As with diarrhea, there is a risk of dehydration. Make sure your hamster has access to drinking water.
6. Practice good hygiene at all times during the nursing and care period. This is especially important when you have more than one hamster, to avoid contamination.
   • Wash your hands.
   • Keep food bowls away from other hamsters and pets.
   • Keep everything clean. This means the cage, drink bottle, food dish and toys. Clean the cage every 2 or 3 days. Trying to clean it any more often can result in additional stress, which is not good for the hamster's recovery.

Video Tips

• If you have more than one hamster, ask someone else to take care of the healthy hamsters, so you can concentrate on the sick ones. This reduces stress for yourself and for your hamster.
• The most easily affected hamsters seem to be weaned baby hamsters up to the age of 8 weeks.[1] This means giving new hamsters time to adjust to their new surroundings before handling them too much (thereby creating stress). Give new hamsters about a week to settle in before handling them often. It is also a good idea to isolate them during this time, as wet tail can be incubating for 7 days before the symptoms appear.[4]
• Other sources of stress include transportation, changes in diet, surgery, overcrowded cage conditions, and weaning.[2]
• Dwarf hamsters can get severe diarrhea but they do not get wet tail.[5] Long-haired teddy hamsters seem to be the most prone to wet tail.[2]

Warnings

• Hamsters can die from wet tail! Take your hamster to the vet as soon as you see the symptoms; death can occur within 24 hours of the symptoms first appearing if left untreated.[1]
• Disinfect everything the hamster has touched during its sickness before using it for another hamster; doing so will help to avoid transferring the disease. A pet-safe disinfectant is available at pet stores.
• Throw away anything that can not be disinfected.
• Hygienic practices are for your own benefit too; exposure to wet tail can place susceptible humans at risk for Campylobacteriosis, which causes diarrhea (frequently bloody), abdominal pain, cramps, fever, and vomiting.[5]
• Tetracycline or penicillins (any antibiotic ending in "-illin") can kill your hamster; do not use any of these as treatment.[5]

Things You'll Need

• Transportation to and from vet
• Quiet and clean place for rest

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Getting over a broken engagement is never easy - your dreams, hopes, and future wishes are all completely dashed in a moment. The bridal magazines sit around, the suit or dress might even be hanging in the wardrobe, and invitations remain unsent... This article suggests ways in which you can begin to emerge from the shock and start to forge a new and different future for yourself after a broken engagement. Instead of saying "I do" to marriage, you can choose to say "I do" to accepting the challenge to move on and find your feet in the world again. Steps

1. Realize that no matter what led to this event, you remain a good and worthy person. For whatever reason, it is an outcome that has forced you to see a different future. And while right now it is hard to see a path ahead, there is one, and likely it is one that includes the right person coming along when the time is right. Do not begin to think that you are never going to find someone "as good as him/her" again. You will, it just doesn't seem like that right now. And resist the temptation to find yourself unworthy in any respect. It is a situation of two people not working out rather than you as an individual not working out.
2. Remove reminders. Anything that reminds you of your ex-fiancé needs to leave your surroundings. This is important so that you can move on and let go. That means either throwing it away (if you cannot bring yourself to return it) or putting it in a box out of the way. Get someone else to return items of value and sentimental interest to your ex-fiancé if you cannot face seeing him or her right now; this is kinder than junking it. Be the strong one.
3. Let out your emotions. Cry if you see fit and perhaps wallow in your sorrows for a few days. It is OK to feel rotten; this is life-dashing stuff you are experiencing. However, set yourself a deadline to pull yourself up and get ready to make a new life for yourself. Every ending has a new beginning, that is the way of life, the world and the universe.
4. Let others know. After you have a good grip on yourself, inform anybody that was aware of the wedding (if a date had been set) that one will no longer be held. The sooner this is done, the better, so that airfares can be redeemed, accommodations canceled and gifts returned. If you already have gifts, be sure to send them back promptly with a kind "thank you" message.
5. Spend time with people who care about you. Go and spend time with friends and family to get your mind off your broken engagement. You need to be around people who support, love, and cherish you right now. And you never know, during times like these, you often find one person who has been through just what you're going through right now. Let them reach out to you; they'll have good advice to share, as well as being living proof you'll get through fine.
6. Take that honeymoon. Even if you hadn't yet booked one, it is a really super idea to grab a friend or even go it alone and take a break somewhere away from your hometown. Go and do something different, something wild, something unique. The difference will do you a lot of good. And while you're away, remember to relax and totally pamper yourself. If you want that gold bracelet and triple decker chocolate ice cream, now is not a time for holding back.
7. Learn, forgive and grow. An engagement is made of two people. Trying to see fault on either side is a situation that will feed resentment and hold you back. You might want to see him or her as being at fault but it is more likely that both of you saw signs along the way but chose to plow on regardless. Analyze a little but don't over-analyze. Accept that both of you might have done things differently but that perhaps this is a sign that it was not going to be a match made in heaven and it is better to know now than later. Be grateful you have had the experience, wish the other side well, and work on letting your forgiveness override blaming either yourself or the other party.
8. Give him (or her) the engagement ring back. If you have one, this is not only fair but wise. You don't want to hold onto it, and if you sell it, you may feel rotten.

Tips

• Watch out for the rebound. If you are really emotionally fragile, steer clear of intimate relationships for a while until you are stronger and your judgment is no longer clouded.
• Do not be embarrassed that your engagement has ended. It is a time of celebration. Think about the results if you had married this person and later on the incompatibilities caused divorce-worthy rifts?
• Take care of yourself but also consider others. To stop yourself wallowing too much, get involved in volunteering - you'll see there are many people with hardships and yours is but one. Although a significant setback, a broken engagement is not a reason to give up on living life to your best ability.
• Don't completely rule out getting back together. In some cases a broken engagement can allow a couple to reflect on their own blind spots and change themselves for the better. Then if the opportunity arises, just maybe it would work out for them to start things over with a clean slate. If neither party is willing to change, stay away from each other! But if your issues have been resolved, give it another shot... carefully of course. A broken engagement can have a happy ending.

Warnings

• If you feel a lack on interest in friends and family, cry constantly, and have trouble motivating yourself, you may be suffering from mild depression and should seek the advice of a therapist.

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Worth the reach.You make a cute couple, but there must be at least a foot between you when you are standing. Don't fret. There's a way to pull this off. Steps

1. Meet in the middle.
   
   
   • For the shorter person: lean back a bit and reach up. Stand on your tiptoes if it's comfortable.
   • For the taller person: bend forward. Spread your feet apart a bit, too. This gives the shorter person a place to stand while lowering your overall height.
2. Get a boost. Take advantage of curbs, steps, stools, and even chairs to correct for the height difference.
3. Have a seat. If your heights are very different, try kissing while the taller person is seated and the shorter person is standing up. Even if your heights are still a bit different, it'll be a chance for the other partner to be taller, instead.
   • If your difference in height is pronounced enough and the situation is appropriate, the shorter of you can sit on the taller's lap, which may eliminate the height difference completely.
4. Get a lift. If the taller partner is strong enough and the shorter partner light enough, lift the shorter person off the ground, entirely. Or, if you're a girl, do "The Notebook position" and again, if your person is capable, wrap your legs around their waist.
5. Work in a hug. Having a much taller person bend at the waist can take up the difference in kissing height nicely, but it can mess up the hug, big-time.
   
   
   • If you mean this to be a polite kiss and hug—the shoulders-only sort—go ahead and bend.
   • If, however, you would prefer more intimate contact, the taller person should not bend at the waist. Instead, have both partners stand straight and have the taller partner bend at the neck and upper back.
   • When not kissing, the shorter partner in a hug may turn his or her head to the side and rest it on the taller partner's chest or shoulders.
6. Kiss other, more accessible spots. If it's appropriate to do so, kiss your partner on the forehead, neck, chest, arms, shoulders, hands, or belly. Not all good kisses land on the lips or cheeks!

Tips

• Don't be afraid to experiment. Find out what works and is comfortable for you and your partner.
• Taller person: support the shorter person’s head with your hand or arm so they don’t get a stiff neck. This happens fast and is a real mood killer.
• Have fun! If something works, enjoy it and try it that way again. If it doesn't quite work, share a good laugh and agree to make a point to practice some more.

Warnings

• If you are lifting somebody, lift safely, bending the knees and not the back.

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Mouse gestures are a combination of mouse-pointing movements and clicks which the computer's software recognizes as a specific command.[1] Many users find using mouse gestures a great way to simplify tasks and a way to speed things up. Steps

1. Get an operating system that supports mouse gestures. These are:
   • Windows (Strokeit, gMote)
   • Linux (Easystroke).
2. Install application software that supports mouse gestures. The applications supporting mouse gestures are:
   • Opera
   • Mouse Gestures Redox (Firefox).
   • Mouse Stroke (Chrome)
3. Turn mouse gestures on.
   • In Opera, go to Tools, Preferences, Advanced, Shortcuts, and click on "Enable Mouse Gestures". OR Perform any gesture and Opera will ask you to turn gestures on.
   • In Firefox, go to Tools, Add-ons, Extensions and double-click "Mouse Gestures".
   • In Chrome, go to Customize, Extensions, Mouse Stroke, and click "Enable".
4. Set up mouse gestures. LMB means Left Mouse Button and RMB means Right Mouse Button.
   • In Opera click Opera Standard and click Edit.
   • In Firefox, open the sidebar to see which gestures are available: View, sidebar, and click on Mouse Gestures.
   • In Chrome, click "Options."
5. Use mouse gestures.
   • RMB and move to the left goes back.
   • RMB and move to the right goes forward.
   • RMB and move up then down to refresh.
   • RMB and move up then right maximises.
   • RMB and move down then left minimises.
   • RMB and move down opens new window or link in new window.
   • RMB and move down then right closes.
   • Easy to visualize examples of Opera gestures: http://www.opera.com/browser/tutorials/gestures/
   • Memorize them just by using them. Remember you don't need to know all of them. Start with back and forward.

Video Things You'll Need

• Applicable operating system
• Applicable application
• Mouse

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[A] perfect penalty is a ball that is struck high, targeted precisely to the right or left of the goalie, and fast, traveling at 90 to 104 kilometers per hour (56 to 64 miles per hour).[1]

Taking a penalty kick in soccer is one of the most pressured and intense moments in a soccer game. It is a mind game as much as a physical achievement, and there are important elements to understand and keep in mind when you're the shooter of a penalty kick. First, it pays not to be overconfident but to really know your strengths and tactics in advance; second, it pays not to play games of reverse psychology as the goalkeeper is likely to be well aware of what you're up to, and last, but not least, it's important not to give the game away with your eyes and body movements.

All of this is easier said than done, though, and the following steps are aimed at helping you be an effective penalty shooter, possibly saving the day for your team.

Steps

1. Understand what a penalty kick is. While penalty kicks and penalty shootouts are similar in nature, they are distinct and follow their own rules as part of the game. (Either way, the remainder of this article applies to both types of goal scoring, as the strategies and tactics suggested can be applied in both cases.)
   • A penalty kick occurs during the game. A penalty kick proceeds following Penalty Kick Law 14. It is a type of free kick that takes place 12 yards / 11 meters out from the goal, and only the goalkeeper of the defending team is between the penalty taker and the goal.[2]
   • A penalty shootout occurs at the end of a game during a tournament. This is not considered a penalty kick but a shootout to determine which team proceeds to the next stage of a particular tournament. It takes place only at the end of a game where the game finishes in a draw. While the procedure is similar to the penalty kick, a penalty shootout does not follow the Penalty Kick Law 14 but is outlined in supplementary sections to the Laws.[3] The penalty shootout is popularly referred to as "penalties".
2. Practice focusing and self-composure techniques as part of your regular training. Even before you are in the position of having to take a penalty goal, part of your training should always be to learn the techniques for keeping yourself calm under pressure.
   • Learn how to remain focused.
   • Practice staying calm under pressure, not thinking about the things that could go wrong. Practicing daily mindfulness can help you to stay aware and attentive to the present moment without being volatile or emotionally upset.[4]
   • Practice visualization of positive results.
3. Know your penalty kick strengths. Before you are placed in the position of taking a penalty kick, it is important to have spent a lot of time training for this. Know in advance what your best shooting strategies are and practice them. When under pressure, returning to what you know well is always easier and if you've already practiced penalty kicks as part of your training, it will feel like second nature when you're doing the real thing.[5]
4. Understand how the goalkeeper is probably viewing your tactics. The keeper learns to read the striker's movements as a key part of his or her success in preventing goals. As part of this,
   • The goalkeeper already knows your playing style and will know how you shoot penalty kicks from previous games. Yet, the keeper will still need to read you in the moments before the shot. This means taking care with where you place your eyes and feet because the keeper will be watching very carefully for all signals.
   • If the keeper comes up to talk to you pre-shot, give away nothing. Keep in mind that the the keeper is trying to distract you.[6]
   • Avoid watching the keeper doing anything distracting -- it is a deliberate tactic aimed at unsettling you, such as the "wobbly dance" performed by Bruce Grobbelaar European Cup in 1984.[7]
   • Don't bother trying to throw off the keeper by staring in the opposite direction from which you intend to kick the ball. A good keeper is wise to that trick and it won't succeed if that's your only strategy.
   • Realize that the keeper is checking your feet angles for any signs that give away your intended shot. Chris Jones says that sharp approach angles give away the ball direction and that sharp angle for a right-footed player means a shoot to the keeper's right (player's left, across his body), while a straighter run means that the right-footed player is shooting to his right.[8]
5. Take position and work out your tactics while the referee is placing the ball for the kick. The important thing is to take the penalty shot in the way that fits best with your abilities, as well as balancing this with a little "sports science" knowledge. Consider as quickly as you can which of the following approaches will work best for you at this point in the game:
   • Shoot with speed. The speed of making a penalty shot has been researched and it appears that a shot taken quickly and with good strength allows you to take advantage of the element of surprise. If you can get yourself together quickly and make a good, fast shot within 3 seconds after the whistle is blown, this can be a successful tactic.[9]
   • Delay the shoot. On the other hand, if you'd rather psych out the keeper, time can be on your side. A delay of more than 13 seconds can unsettle the keeper.[10]
   • Wait for the keeper to move. However, you must be ready to react swiftly once the keeper has moved, or your moment for surprise will be lost.
   • Approach the ball with a "stutter" (paradinha). This is a "feinting" move in which you aim to confuse the keeper by making a stutter step as you run up to take the kick. Great care must be taken in doing this, however, as you must not be viewed as feinting to kick the ball once the run-up has been completed, or this will earn you a caution.[11]
6. Focus on where you want the ball to head in your mind's eye, not using your eyes. As explained earlier, the keeper is watching your eyes and the more nervous you are, the more likely you are to slip into focusing on the net direction and the keeper than on the ball. To avoid this, the following tips can help:
   • Choose the spot where you want to aim the ball before approaching the ball.[12]
   • Avoid looking at the keeper. If it's easier, pretend the keeper is not present.
   • Stay focused on the ball. Keep your eyes on the ball at all times and remain focused -- once focus is lost, you risk losing your composure.
7. Kick the ball once the referee has signaled by whistling that it's time to kick. Decide first whether you will kick for accuracy or for power (this determines your kick style) and then take the kick as recommended below:
   • Accuracy - If it's "precision over power" you want, then the recommended kick is the inside-foot.
   • Power - Sometimes power can be enough to take the ball past the keeper: a strong shooter who can kick at speeds of 80 mph can shoot the ball to the goal line in 500 milliseconds, whereas the keeper will take 600 milliseconds to move from the center of the goal to one of its posts.[13] To achieve this shot, shoot hard with the instep, i.e., from the laces.
   • Take a short, straight run up of only four to six steps (this has been found to be the most successful approach). [14]Kick the ball low and hard, and aim for about 3 inches / 7.5 cm inside of each post: Chris Jones says that the low and hard shot taken from a short, straight run is "impossible to stop".[15]
8. Stay alert. As soon as you strike the ball, do not switch off. Always get ready for a rebound if the keeper saves it, but not if the ball hits the post/crossbar. Remember always take your time.

Video Tips

• While it is true that almost everybody expects you to score a penalty kick because it is the best advantage in which to score a goal, do not turn this expectation into added pressure in your thinking; nobody apart from you can ever know what it feels like in those precious seconds of your penalty kick, so remove their judgment from your mind.
• Do not feel that the shot has to leave the ground; it can be effective to ground the ball away from the goalie. Also, be ready for any rebounds.
• Don’t hesitate about where you will place the ball because the goalkeepers will spot it and take advantage of that.
• Always stay focussed and composed.

Warnings

• Penalty kicks are primarily mental, so try to think you are alone when you are shooting.

Things You'll Need

• Soccer ball
• Goal with net
• A goal keeper (optional if practicing)

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• How to Score Penalty Kicks in Soccer
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• How to Apply a Front Kick

Sources and Citations

• How to take a P.K, http://www.soccer-training-guide.com/soccer-penalty.html -- research source

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Oops! Anybody who juggles knows that drops are common. Of course, you will practice your act and try to perfect it, but at some point, it's not a question of whether you drop, but when. It's not the end of the world, and if you're prepared to recover quickly and well, it's not the end of your act, either. Steps

1. Don't stop now! Practice your recoveries just as you practice your act. Practicing will make them second nature, so that you don't panic just because you've dropped something. A drop during practice is not the time to take a break. It's the time to practice your recoveries.
2. "This next trick is really hard, so watch closely. It may take a couple tries." Prep your audience. If you haven't quite worked out all the kinks yet, or if a trick is really going to be difficult, you can flat out tell your audience that you may drop a couple of times during your act. Let them know you're relaxed about it, and they'll relax, too.
   • Tell your audience when a particularly difficult trick is coming. Say you're going to give yourself three tries. There is suspense (and therefore interest) in watching somebody do something that is difficult.
3. Learn recovery techniques. Practice picking up a drop and getting back into your pattern or your group's pattern. If you are juggling with a group, it will help if everyone knows the basics of recovery, anyway.
4. Learn some tricks for picking up a dropped prop. You can even turn a drop into an applause point this way. If you're comfortable having an audience member or another performer throw a prop back into your pattern, ask someone to do that for you. Otherwise, learn some kick-ups.
   • Scoop the ball onto one toe. You can get it there with your other foot. Kick the ball straight up. Once you can catch with either hand, try working it directly back into your pattern.To kick up a dropped ball with your feet, use one foot to scoop it onto the other toe. Then kick straight up and catch it. You can kick straight into your pattern if you practice.
   • Hook your foot under the center of the club. "Snap" the club straight up with your foot. The club will rotate and, with practice, land about where you can catch it.To kick up a dropped club, roll the middle of it onto your foot, with the bulb facing out away from you. Flex your foot up in a hook so the handle of the club touches your ankle, as shown. Then kick straight up quickly. The club will rotate on its own and land in your hand. This maneuver will take some practice, but it's worth it.
5. "A sudden gust of gravity!"Make excuses. If your juggling act includes speaking, and especially if it includes clowning, a drop is a great opportunity to poke fun at yourself and elicit a laugh. An excuse can entertain your audience until you get back into your routine. The more far-fetched or outrageous the "excuse", the better.
   • Stare at the dropped object as though it had suddenly appeared there and you don't know why, or as though you are angry with it for falling.
   • Blame "a sudden gust of gravity!" or simply observe, "Ah, gravity works!"
   • "Oops, I almost dropped something there! Good thing I didn't!" An obvious flat-out lie often gets a laugh.
   • "I think floor-juggling is about to catch on."Crouch down and start "juggling" the other props along with the dropped object by shuffling them around on the floor, as though you meant to do that. Be sure to include a guilty smile.
   • "You can do a better job? Go ahead!"Involve (or blame) the audience. "Stop looking at me!" "It works when nobody's watching!" "What are you laughing at?" "Oh, yeah, let's see you do it!"
6. Yes.Show confidence and get back into your routine.
   • Your audience will see what you're feeling.
   • No.Recover quickly without dwelling on it. Don't project or emphasize your error unless it's part of your act to do so.
   • Don't lose intensity or focus.
   • Keep in character, whatever your character may be.
   • Get back into your routine, strongly, quickly, and confidently.
7. Offer to teach hecklers to juggle. Either they'll clam up quickly or they'll be busy for awhile.

Tips

• Have alternatives in mind. If you feel like you are having an off day or can't quite turn in a masterpiece at the moment, could you do your act with fewer props or do a simpler version of a particular trick?
• Although this article is aimed at jugglers, similar techniques can apply to recovering from many different errors, in other acts as well as in life in general.

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Sources and Citations

• Thanks to Luís Alfonso Zavala, aka Funny Fonzie, for posing for all the photos and for input on the article contents. http://www.facebook.com/funnyfonzie

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Create your own buntingBunting is a festive decoration made from fabric, paper, plastic, or other materials. This article will show you how to make bunting using fabric to brighten up your house, garden, bedroom, summerhouse, log cabin or tent. Steps

1. TemplateStart off by creating the template. Draw a triangle measuring 20cm wide by 20cm deep, then cut it out.
2. Lay out the templatePlace the template onto the material. If using a tea-towel, use the hemmed edge as the top edge of the triangle (this will save you having to create your own hem).
3. Cutting outCut around the template using pinking shears.
4. Triangular piecesRepeat this step, so that you have a nice pile of triangular pieces of material.
5. PinsLay out the tape or ribbon and start to pin on the triangles, using the hemmed edge at the top.
6. Bunting gapsLeave a gap of between 3cm and 5cm between the flags.
7. Continue adding the flags until you reach the desired length. Make sure you leave a longer gap at either end, so that you have enough ribbon to tie up your bunting. Sewing SewingUse a standard straight stitch to sew the flags to the ribbon. Using a sewing machine is quicker, but you could do this by hand.
8. Sewing the edgeIf you did not use the ready-made edge from the tea-towel fabric, fold the material under at the top edge, and sew onto the tape.
9. Pile of buntingKeep going until you have finished sewing all the pieces onto the tape or ribbon.
10. Bunting hanging upGive the pieces a quick iron. Then hang them up!

Video Tips

• Use tea-towels as they are rather cheap.
• Alternate the colours on your bunting, and either stick to a colour scheme, or use random scraps of material.
• Save more time by using the edging on the tea towels, so that you'll have one less step to do in making the top hem of the flag.
• By using pinking shears (to make a zig zag edge), you do not need to hem each individual flag. The finished article

Warnings

• Be careful when using scissors, pins and the sewing machine. Not suitable for children to make, unless supervised by an adult.

Things You'll Need

• MaterialsSome fabric scraps
• Ribbon, tape, bias binding
• Sewing thread
• Pinking shears scissors
• Ordinary scissors
• Sewing machine (or needle and thread)
• Paper, pen and ruler

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A wonderful four-minute recipe for a smoothie that's not only going to give you a fantastic energy boost but it's also going to give you all the fruits that you need for the whole day. Ingredients

• Fresh strawberries (a handful)
• Fresh raspberries (a handful)
• 1 banana
• 1 small container simple, natural yogurt
• A little bit of orange juice
• 1 lime for flavor
• 5 cubes of ice

Steps

1. Prepare the strawberries and raspberries. Hull the green leaves from the end of each strawberry.
   • Wash the strawberries and raspberries gently under running water. They might look clean but there's always a chance that there might be a pesticide residue or dirt.
2. Add the strawberries and raspberries to the blender.
3. Add the yogurtAdd the natural yogurt to the blender. The yogurt will give the smoothie wonderful body and makes it a healthy smoothie, just be sure to choose a low fat yogurt.
4. Add the orange juice and banana. Orange juice will thin smoothie and banana will thicken it up. If you prefer a thicker smoothie, just add more banana. If you are looking for a thinner one, add a little more orange juice.
   • Chop the bananaSlice the banana using a small knife and slice it straight into the blender.
5. Blend it for 30 secondsPut the lid on the blender and blend the ingredients for 30 seconds.
6. Give it a last kick with lime. Give the lime a quick roll on the chopping board to loosen up the juice. Once rolled, cut it in half and squeeze the juice on the top of the smoothie. The lime juice will give the smoothie a really nice punchy flavor and also adds even more Vitamin C and antioxidants.
7. Enjoy a healthy smoothie for breakfast Serve. Throw in an ice cube or two and garnish with a strawberry or mint leaf. You're done--a really quick breakfast smoothie that couldn't be any easier.

Video Tips

• The banana thickens this smoothie; there is no need to add ice. As explained in the steps, if you want a thicker version, add more banana.

Things You'll Need

• Blender
• Chopping board and knife
• Glass for serving

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Sources and Citations

• Original source of content, 5min, http://www.5min.com/Video/How-to-Blend-a-Yummy-Berry-Smoothie-8022510. Shared with permission of the author.

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Have you ever wanted to beat your opponent, but no matter what you do, you just keep losing points? And the more you try to win, the worse you get? Zen tennis is a way to move around this challenge for good. Steps

1. Learn the four mental states of a successful tennis player. Mental fitness is as important as physical fitness in tennis. Focusing on these states and practicing ways to improve your mental focus should form a part of your regular training. The four essential mental states are:[1]
   • Concentration - staying in the present
   • Commitment - you must maintain both drive and stamina
   • Control - not only of the ball and racquet, but also over your emotions and behaviour, including your reaction to bad weather, broken racquets, bad line calls, snapped nets, noisy crowds, etc.
   • Confidence - your certain belief that you can manage anything on the court.
2. Forget about winning. Winning will come from better aligned focus, and getting the basics right. How can you get the basics right if you spend your time focusing on winning the point instead of focusing on hitting the ball?
   • Think of your concentration level as a limited bucket. If use up your concentration on trying to win, hitting a winner or the previous point you lost or won, then you have less concentration to spend on hitting that next ball. This leads to more unforced errors.
3. Forget about what has happened in the previous point and focus on your next shot. Tennis is a short game when you think about it, and many players dwell on how they should have won that last point, what they did wrong, or how to win the next point. This takes away from your concentration bucket and causes more unforced errors.
4. Focus on hitting the ball. By enjoying each point, and focusing on the enjoyment each strike brings, you will naturally focus on the ball.
   • Keep your eye on the ball. This is the key to good tennis, and you will naturally hit better shots.
5. Change your mindset. Instead of trying to win the point, try thinking about how to make the rally longer. After all, you are here to play tennis and the enjoyment it brings should be at the forefront of the game's purpose. By trying to make the point longer, you will distract yourself from focusing on winning the point, and instead point that focus on hitting the ball correctly. After all, to make the point last longer, you need to hit more balls in, which means you need to focus on the ball and hitting it correctly.
6. Don't try to always hit the winner. If the opportunity presents itself then take it, but do not force the winner. By looking for winners, you are taking away from your concentration bucket, leaving less for focusing on the ball.
7. Believe in yourself. When you start losing, don't step back and start playing like a weak player. Know that you have done this before and that you can play at this level. Most of the time you will start to focus on how many points you have lost, and how poorly you are playing. This will take away from your concentration bucket, and leave you with nothing to hit the ball with.
8. Don't think about hitting the ball. Substitute an enjoyment of guiding the ball to its desired location. When you guide the ball, your concentration becomes focused on the ball, rather than on you. Your strokes will become naturally longer with the correct follow through, and power will come when you learn to co-ordinate the ball directly onto the sweet spot. You'll find your stamina is increased as you get less tired hitting the ball, because you are letting the racquet do the work.

Tips

• There are numerous mental and self-esteem benefits of playing tennis. Tennis is a sport that is both social and individual at the same time. This gives you a sense of control over what is happening, while still being part of social interaction. Tennis also helps you to unwind, release tension, remain healthy, learn to win and lose graciously (those who gloat or sulk in tennis are viewed as bad sports), and most of all, to have fun.[2] All of these reasons should be enough to introduce a zen approach into your regular tennis.
• Always remember to enjoy what you are doing–winning is just a by-product of the enjoyment of tennis.
• If it is hard to relinquish the desire to become angry at yourself on the court, remember that winning is the by-product of the enjoyment of tennis, and you will slowly realise if you stop focusing on winning and the mistakes you've made, and start enjoying each stroke, you'll find that the journey is the reason you are playing tennis in the first place.
• Do not hit the ball with power. Stroke the ball with confidence, and the power will come from it.
• Defy your inner corny comedic self and refrain from calling it "zennis." Still, it's your call; it all depends on whether you're playing with understanding friends or people you barely know!

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A butane stoveA butane stove is an excellent cooking tool to have in the outdoors. You can cook your food in less than half the time compared to using solid fuel and you can actually do proper cooking (control the heat easily). These stove models are light and portable, making them suitable for backpacking trips. Follow the steps in this article to know how to set up a backpacking stove.

Note: The "Campingaz Blueut" model is used for demonstration purposes in this article.

Steps

1. Place the canister to fit right into the holder as shown.
2. Close up the legs. The base can still open easily, but it will not be able to do so once you screw in the burner.
3. Screw in the burner. Before doing so, make sure the gas valve is closed fully (but not too tightly; doing so will wear out the threads quickly). You will know that you have connected the burner to the canister when you cannot screw down any further. There will most likely not be any sound when the canister has been pierced.
   • To test that the canister has been pierced, turn on the gas by turning the gas handle in a clockwise manner in a well ventilated area (outdoors is the best). If you hear the sound of the gas, the stove is ready for use.
4. Turn on the gas and holding a lighter or matchstick below the part where the gas comes out from, light the stove. A flame is not clearly visible, but you will feel the heat of the stove very soon. Once screwed on, do not remove the canister until it has been completely used. You can then replace the canister re-following the steps above.

Video Tips

• Depending on the brand and model of stove you are using, the cook timings will be different. Always read the accompanying instructions with your backpacking stove.
• Different models of stoves will have slightly different set-up procedures. Follow the instructions in the manual.
• It is important to note the freezing temperature of your stove. If it's too cold, it may not be able to operate.
• Refer to the article on choosing a backpacking stove, for details on purchasing a backpacking stove.
• A wind shield may be deployed in conditions of strong wind, but must be brought along. If wind is likely to be an issue where you're backpacking, be sure to include one.

Warnings

• Do not unscrew stove unless the valve is firmly closed, by doing so you are creating a serious fire hazard.
• If you fail to light the stove within 5 seconds, switch off the gas valve and wait for 5 seconds for the gas to disperse before trying again.
• Do not use canisters/cartridges that are not designed for the specific make of stove. Refer to the accompanying manual of your stove.
• The flame is not visible when the surroundings are bright (day time). That does not mean it is not there!
• Never attempt to screw on stove burner if there is any form of fire/flame within 30 feet, not even a cigarette. Unseen gas can escape from canister during this process, and leap towards the flame, causing an extremely dangerous situation, where the flame can follow the gas to your canister, and potentially cause it to explode in your hand.

Things You'll Need

• Parts of a butane stoveThe Campingaz Blueut butane stove comes in two parts. The canister comes separately. To cook, you need:
  • The burner (top part, has a needle at the bottom to pierce the canister)
  • The stove holder
  • The canister

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• http://www.campingaz.com/ - Company that manufactures gas stove demonstrated in article.

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We've all seen the movies where a person halts a wedding in progress in order to get back the one they truly love. In reality though, halting a wedding from going ahead is a very delicate situation that can easily backfire on you and spoil a significant day.

If you believe you're justified in doing so, however, here are some suggestions for going about stopping a wedding with class and dignity.

Steps

1. Before considering anything as dramatic as stopping a wedding in progress, try to contact your beloved prior to the wedding day so you two can have a private moment together. Stopping a wedding is an act that will have serious consequences for many people: you, the bride and groom, their families and the other guests.
2. Make sure you truly feel as if halting the wedding is your only option. You most likely have a history with the person about to tie the knot, and you must be certain that your odds of winning him or her back are favorable and desirable.
3. If there are two people that are clearly underaged getting married, you have a right to speak your part, but do not do so rudely. Please refrain from running and screaming into the church, or wherever. Direct yourself in a calm and collected manner. If possible, have a serious talk with the bride and groom beforehand.
   • Don't just think about yourself in this equation. Be honest about your belief that your beloved is not happy with the person he or she is about to marry. It is possible, after all, that they have made this choice after a great deal of soul-searching, based on their own wants, needs, and preferences. Sometimes a person will prefer a pragmatic, realistic, and reliable love choice over a deep love that they feel isn't going to fulfill specific needs in their life.
   • Talk this out with several others before you act. The human mind works in strange ways. Sometimes what we think in our own mind is a brilliant idea at the time might just turn out to be crazy. We all have false memories - the recollection of an event, or the details of an event, that did not occur.
4. Find out the location of the wedding. Unless you have been invited, you will have to find out where the wedding ceremony is to be held, and the exact time. Ask family members or friends if it doesn't appear too suspicious, or perhaps check the wedding notices in the local newspaper.
5. Prepare your speech. If you're going to put a stop to something that has taken months to prepare and probably even longer to agree to, what you have to say needs to be incredibly compelling. Writing out a speech, rehearsing it, and learning it by heart are absolute necessities to overcome nerves and to project it from the heart.
   • Build an effective case.
   • Keep it brief but powerful.
   • Give reasons why the person you love is marrying the wrong person. And why it should be you instead.
   • Express your undying devotion to the bride or groom.
6. Find a suitable place to wait. Do not allow yourself to be seated by the ushers. This increases the odds that you may be stuck in a bad part of the audience that will make it difficult for you to make your objection. If you have to, wait until everyone has been seated and the wedding is underway before you enter the foyer of the building.
   • If the wedding is outdoors, keep a good distance until the bride has walked the aisle.
7. Be in position when the ceremony begins. The best spot is at the back door of the church or room in which the ceremony is taking place. If the wedding is outdoors, move to the back of the aisle or seating area.
8. Will you object before it's too late?Object. When the reverend, marriage celebrant, or judge asks if anyone should object to the marriage, step forward between the first few rows of seats in the back of the room. Boldly but smoothly raise your hand and say, "I object."
   • At this point you must immediately provide a reason why your beloved must not marry the other person. This is where your well-rehearsed speech will ensure that you sound convincing and will help prevent you from coming across as weak, crazy, or insecure. WARNING: If you make untrue allegations against another person you're likely to be sued.
   • Some weddings no longer include this phrase. Unless you are sure this wedding does it might simply be better to talk to your love ahead of time.
9. Wait. The bride or groom will have only a few seconds to make a decision and everyone this person knows will be hanging on his or her answer. If he or she objects, quietly exit the room and walk away without making a scene. Don't be surprised if things do not go as you hoped; this is a very left-field, highly emotionally charged act. Instead, be gracious, nod politely, and apologize.
   • Exit the wedding without making a fuss. You've probably already caused enough emotional trauma for the guests present (which is why it is exceedingly important to always think long and hard before going through with this).
   • Have a taxi waiting, or your car, ready to make a fast exit.
   • If you need to speak with your beloved, wait until after the honeymoon and send an email or text asking to meet up.
10. Take charge if things go your way. If he or she decides not to go through with the wedding, it is your duty to immediately escort your beloved away from the pressure of their family and friends. There is no doubt that friends and family will be angry or furious and will demand answers if the bride or groom doesn't immediately flee the scene.
    • Have a get-away car prepared so that the bride or groom doesn't have to face the embarrassment of his or her friends and family.
11. Enjoy life with your stolen bride or groom. Be cautious, however, as someone who is likely to walk from a wedding may be afraid of commitment, and insecure in relationships. This could pose problems for your relationship.

Tips

• Write out what you plan to say as an objection to the wedding. This way if you freeze when everyone is wondering why you are interrupting the ceremony, you can refer to your written declaration of love and minimize the risk of drawing a blank.
• Be prepared to cover the expenses of the wedding if you get your heart's desire. It's only fair recompense and you may be legally responsible for these expenses if you succeed.

Warnings

• Objecting to a marriage is risky and your odds of pulling it off are slim at best.
• You should try your best to work out any potential issues with your "beloved" before the day of the wedding. If you can't talk to the person and air your concerns, you should take that as a sign that breaking up the wedding is not the correct course of action.
• In attempting to steal a soon-to-be spouse away, you will face the anger of their family and friends. If you attempt to break up a wedding, you may well ensure continuing hatred from your "beloved" and everybody else involved.
• Unless you want to face immediate repercussions or you're dealing with a very understanding family, it might be a good idea to move to a different part of the country afterward. You should have a job and place to live in mind before you depart.
• In many weddings in this day and age the officiant does not ask if anyone objects.
• If you really respect and care about this person, talk to him/her ahead of time in private. Speaking up for the first time at the wedding in front of a crowd of people can be a very hurtful, impolite way to handle the situation.
• Seek psychological counsel. What you are suggesting is rare, not normal, and will cause life-changing memories for everyone in the room. You may also want legal counsel -- if you make any negative remarks about another person you're likely to be sued for slander.
• Your 'beloved' may hate you

Things You'll Need

• Prepared speech
• Wedding details
• The confidence to speak your mind

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Noticing the signals that people send out with their body language is a very useful social skill. Some of us can read it naturally and some of us are notoriously oblivious. Fortunately, with a little extra attentiveness, you can learn to read body language, and with enough practice it'll become second nature. Steps

1. Gauge how close someone is to you. The closer they are, the warmer their opinions are of you. The farther away that someone is, the less they actually care. If you move slightly closer to them, do they move slightly further away? That means they don't want your interaction to be any more personal than it already is. If they don't move further away, then they are receptive. And if they respond by getting even closer to you, they probably really like you.
   
   
   • It is worth noting that personal space is culturally fluid; keep in mind that what is considered close in one country is far away in another.
2. Watch their head position.
   
   
   • Overly tilted heads are either a potential sign of sympathy, or if a person smiles while tilting their head, they are being playful and maybe even flirting.
   • Lowered heads indicate a reason to hide something. Take note if someone lowers their head. If it is when he is complimented, he may be shy, ashamed, timid, keeping distance from the other person, in disbelief, or thinking to himself. If it is after an explanation, then he may be unsure if what he said was correct.
     • It should be noted that some cultures see this as a sign of respect.
   • Cocked heads mean that they are confused or challenging you, depending on eye, eyebrow, and mouth gestures. Think of how a dog slightly cocks its head when you make a funny noise.
3. Look into their eyes.
   
   
   • People who look to the sides a lot are nervous, lying, or distracted. However, if a person looks away from the speaker, it very well could be a comfort display or indicate submissiveness. Looking askance generally means the person is distrustful or unconvinced.
   • If someone looks down at the floor a lot, they are probably shy or timid.
   • Some cultures believe that looking at someone in the eyes is a sign of disrespect, so this could explain why someone is avoiding eye contact with you.
   • Dilated pupils mean that the person is interested. Keep in mind, however, that many drugs cause pupils to dilate, including alcohol, cocaine, amphetamines, MDMA, LSD and others. Don't mistake having a few drinks for attraction. Also, some people have permanently dilated pupils (a condition known as mydriasis).
4. See if they're mirroring you. Mirroring is another common gesture. If someone mirrors, or mimics your appearance, this is a very genuine sign that they are interested in you and trying to establish rapport with you. Try changing your body position here and there. If you find that they change theirs similarly, they are mirroring.
5. Check their arms.
   
   
   • People with crossed arms are closing themselves to social influence. Though some people just cross their arms as a habit, it may indicate that the person is (slightly) reserved, uncomfortable with their weight (therefore trying to hide it), or just trying to hide something on their shirt. If their arms are crossed while their feet are shoulder width or wider apart, this is a position of toughness or authority.
   • If someone rests their arms behind their neck or head, they are open to what is being discussed or just laid back in general.
   • If their hands are on their hips, they might be waiting or impatient.
6. Be aware of nervous gestures:
   
   
   • If someone brushes their hair back with their fingers, this may be preening, a common gesture if the person likes you, or their thoughts about something conflict with yours. They might not voice this. If you see raised eyebrows during this time, you can be pretty sure that they disagree with you.
   • If the person wears glasses, and is constantly pushing them up onto their nose again, with a slight frown, that may also indicate they disagree with what you are saying. Look to make sure they push up their glasses with an intent, not casually adjusting them. Look for pushing on the rim with two fingers, or an extra motion of wiggling the side of their glasses. The frown or raised eyebrows should tip you off.
   • Lowered eyebrows and squinted eyes illustrate an attempt at understanding what is being said or going on. It's usually skeptical. This is presuming they are not trying to observe something that's far away.
7. Watch their feet:
   
   
   • A fast tapping, shifting of weight, laughing, or movement of the foot will most often mean that the person is impatient, excited, nervous, scared, or intimidated.
     • Note though that some people with ADHD will constantly jiggle their legs. It doesn't mean anything, it's entirely subconscious and, while eccentric, it can't be stopped.
   • If the person is sitting, feet crossed at the ankles means they're generally at ease.
   • If while standing, a person seems to always keep their feet very close together, it probably means they are trying to be "proper" in some way.
   • If they purposely touch their feet to yours, they are flirting!

Tips

• It's easy to spot a confident person; they will make prolonged eye contact and have a strong posture. Long eye contact can also be found in lovers' eyes.
• Don't isolate yourself by constantly examining body language when interacting with people. Otherwise, there is no reason to gain a social upper hand anyway. This is paralysis by analysis.
• Watch the face, it will usually give off a quick involuntary and sometimes subconscious twitch when something happens that irritates, excites, or amuses them.
• Observing in context is key to understanding body language.
• Keep in mind that each person has their own unique body language called baseline behaviors.
• When observing others, be subtle about it.
• Pay special attention to CHANGES in body language rather than the body language itself.

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Seven days without chocolate makes one weak. ~ Anonymous
Are you a chocoholic? Everyone likes a sweet treat once and a while. But if you can't get through the day without a chocolate fix, it's possible that you have a problem. This article will help you to identify if you have a chocolate addiction and help you to do something about it. Steps

1. Identify the symptoms. Not all researchers in the field of psychology perceive chocolate addiction as a "true addiction",[1] however, some researchers believe that the release of endorphins brought about by consuming chocolate creates a physical dependency to obtain that mood high again and again, thereby suggesting it is possible to be addicted to chocolate.[2] Whichever way you see it, cravings for chocolate are definitely real and very hard to resist if you have become habituated to consuming it. If you have uncontrollable cravings for chocolate, these may be some of the signs:
   • You feel "conditioned" to need it at certain times of the day (the post-lunch afternoon dip being one good example).
   • You salivate more in the presence of chocolate, or at the thought of it.
   • You feel negative or anxious without it, and feel better for having it.[3]
2. Identify why it is a problem in your life. If you think chocolate might be a problem, it is important to understand what challenges your chocolate addiction might be bringing into your life:
   • It has become source of too many nutritionally-empty calories in your diet, adding to weight woes and reducing your nutritional intake (while chocolate has some benefits, the fat and sugar content do not).
   • Neediness - you are not happy until you have consumed chocolate during the day. You will even go out of your way to purchase and stock up chocolate, feeling panic if you don't have it in a "stash".
   • You're getting headaches, even severe ones, after consuming chocolate but you still eat it anyway.[4]
   • Feeling under par, lacking in energy half an hour or so after eating chocolate (the sugar crash). To counteract this, you're eating even more chocolate.
   • Binge-eating, defensiveness or lying about eating chocolate if other people near to you disapprove, or if you're trying to cover it up out of shame.
   • Sub-optimal skin or complexion (likely in combination with a generally unhealthy diet, and chocolate's sugar and fat content is adding more nutritional strain).
   • Financial - if you've suddenly developed a penchant for imported European chocolate, or you're stocking up on lots of chocolate regularly, it can hit the wallet!
3. Identify the cause. There are a number of possibilities that might be fueling your chocolate addiction or cravings. Consider whether any of the following apply to you:
   • Emotional problems: You are feeling down, anxious, depressed, disappointed, angry about unresolved issues, etc., and chocolate has become a major source of lifting your mood.
   • Staving off hunger: You are hungry and chocolate is handy, readily available, and cheap. This can be especially tempting if there is chocolate readily available in your workplace or college. Or, perhaps you are on a diet and you feel deprived of pleasurable foods that you'd normally enjoy, so you're sneaking it without counting its calorie burden on your diet.
   • Sense memory: Perhaps the simple memory of the taste of chocolate is enough to trigger your desire for it, or seeing a photo of chocolate online, in a painting, or in a book sets you off.
   • Boredom: Chocolate fills in time and provides a pleasurable distraction while you're waiting, or while you're procrastinating over a report or essay that you aren't enjoying but have to finish.
4. Add a little more broccoli to your day Solve the root problem. Once you have identified the cause, tackle it in a healthy and self-compassionate way. Unless you're allergic to chocolate or your doctor has sworn you off it for medical reasons, you don't need to give up chocolate completely; simply minimize it. Here are some methods for solving your out-of-control chocolate cravings:
   • Make a decision to stop craving chocolate or using it as a crutch. It's important to want to make a change for the better, otherwise, you won't.[5]
   • Find alternative energy boosts. Eat more protein and grains for lunch to give you afternoon energy. Eat fruit and veggies for snacks, have a few nuts and seeds, try fat-free crackers, and drink more water. Eat chocolate only as an occasional treat rather than as a snack.
   • Lessen the amount of chocolate consumed every week. Get more from your food experience by treating yourself to smaller portions of better quality chocolate. Concentrate on enjoying and prolonging the experience. Try a bar of 80 percent cocoa chocolate (this will contain a lot less sugar) from a health food store, and make it last a week.
   • Stop going down the confectionery aisles in the supermarket. Usually there is nothing nutritionally healthy in this aisle anyway!
   • Use aromatherapy to give your senses a boost. Choose favorite scents, but preferably not chocolate!
   • Find something else to do. When boredom, procrastination, and frustration set in, feed your need for energy release rather than your emotions. Go for a power walk, do some stretches, wash the dishes, feed the cats, take some time away from anywhere that has chocolate.
   • Keep your chocolate supply low or non-existent. That means replacing home and work chocolate stashes with other snacks (healthy ones, like fruits, are better!). If you are not able to resist eating chocolate when it is in the house, stop buying it for stocking up. Tell friends not to give you chocolate, and ask family members to hide their stashes somewhere else!
   • Try new foods with plenty of flavors. Cook up some Thai food, or try African cuisine. Hopefully you'll find some new favorite foods from this.
   • See your dentist. Ask for a check-up and perhaps a whitening treatment or a polish. The check-up might reveal that chocolate hasn't been kind to your teeth, and the whitening treatment or polish might inspire you to not spoil your teeth with more sweets.[6]
5. Know what to expect as you minimize your chocolate intake. You might experience withdrawal symptoms and you might be tempted to replace chocolate with other sweet treats such as cookies and cake. Some things that might accompany minimizing your chocolate intake include:
   • Expect the possibility of some caffeine withdrawal symptoms. This will be even more marked if you have been eating coffee chocolate products, such as chocolate coated coffee beans.
   • Expect the possibility of some sugar withdrawal symptoms. If you do experience this, it might manifest itself in lower energy levels (initially but these will bounce back), irritability, depression, mood swings and even flu-like symptoms.[7] See How to Stop Sweet Cravings for more advice.
   • Expect the possibility of feeling irritable, out of sorts, and reaching for the chocolate stash as a matter of habit.
6. A little bit of dark chocolate is better than sweet substitutes Be careful not to substitute chocolate for something else as unhealthy. Don't listen to anyone who insists that chocolate substitutes such as carob or yogurt treats are healthy–they are not because they still have high sugar and saturated fat content. You are better off eating small amounts of top quality chocolate than resorting to such sweet alternatives.
   • Be ready for chocolate cravings by having healthy standbys readily available at all times (fruit, nuts, vegetables, dip, etc.).
7. A cup of quality cocoa might be a better choice for your health Sort the myths from the realities when it comes to assessing the so-called health benefits of chocolate. It can be all too easy to use "health-benefits" as an excuse to keep consuming large quantities of chocolate. Chocolate is not a health food. In the right state, it has some healthy properties but only when unadulterated and in small doses:
   • Catechins: Cocoa beans contain catechins, an antioxidant that can help guard against cancer and heart disease. While dark chocolate is a good source of these catechins, only eat in moderation and only quality dark chocolate. Another method for getting the catechins without the fat and high calorie intake is to drink cocoa.[8]
   • Cocoa butter: While pure cocoa might be a beneficial food in small amounts, most processed chocolate contains an array of ingredients including sugar, corn syrup, milk fats / dairy cream, hydrogenated oils, etc., detracting on the whole from its nutritional benefits. If you continue to consume chocolate, stick with dark chocolate only, and check that it has not been adulterated with dairy, sugar, or other products. Cocoa butter of itself (rather than added fat) is considered to have no effect on cholesterol levels, so look for chocolate with only cocoa butter (not vegetable fat/oils/butter fat).[9] Remember though, that all chocolate has the potential to be fattening.

Video Tips

• Tell your friends that you're trying to change your eating habits, so they can support you.
• The main fat in chocolate is stearic acid. It is not considered to increase cholesterol levels.[10]
• Eat everything in moderation. Even chocolate.

Warnings

• If you're eating for emotional reasons, seek professional advice.
• Too much of any manufactured sweet food is unhealthy and increases your risk of dental cavities, diabetes, heart disease, etc. Ask for your doctor's advice if you don't know how to reduce your chocolate habit on your own.
• Be aware that a lot of the studies proving how good chocolate is for you are industry-funded. Think critically when reading such justifications and don't fall for making these your justifications too.

Things You'll Need

• Distractions
• Healthy food choices, healthy snacks
• Quality, dark chocolate in moderation

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